We’ve all been there. You’re finally sitting down to watch a movie, the popcorn is ready, and suddenly the mom dies in the first ten minutes. You look at your kid, they look at you, and you realize you’re about to have "The Talk"—not the birds and the bees one, but the "Where did they go?" one.

It’s tempting to change the channel or skip the chapter. We want to keep childhood "magical," which we often interpret as "sadness-free." But here’s the reality: kids are already thinking about this. They see a dead bee on the sidewalk. They hear about a grandparent’s friend passing away. They might even see weird, nihilistic "Skibidi Toilet" memes that touch on destruction in a way that feels totally "Ohio" (that’s kid-speak for weird/cringe/bad, for those of us still catching up).

Using media to talk about death gives kids a vocabulary for grief before they actually need it. It’s a safe simulation. When Mufasa falls, your child gets to feel a "micro-dose" of loss from the safety of your lap. That’s not brain rot; that’s emotional intelligence.

Ages 3-7 If you aren’t watching Bluey yet, I don’t know what to tell you—it’s the best show on TV, period. In the episode "Copycat," Bluey finds a hurt budgie. They take it to the vet, but the bird dies. The show doesn't sugarcoat it. It doesn't say the bird "went to sleep." It says it died. Bluey then spends the rest of the day re-enacting the event through play. It is a masterclass in how kids process trauma.

Ages 3-6 Todd Parr is the king of "simple but profound." This book uses a fish losing its companion to explain the physical feelings of grief—not wanting to eat, feeling angry, or just feeling nothing. It’s great because it doesn't tie it to a specific religion or philosophy, leaving room for you to insert your family’s specific beliefs.

Ages 6+ While Bambi is the classic "trauma" movie, Coco is the modern gold standard for discussing what comes after. It frames death through the lens of memory and legacy. It’s vibrant, musical, and shifts the conversation from "the end of life" to "the celebration of life." It’s also a great way to talk about how different cultures handle death.

Ages 8-12 This book (and the recent movie) deals with the "circle of life" in a way that feels very honest. Roz the robot accidentally kills a family of geese and has to raise the survivor. It touches on the reality of nature—that death is often a part of survival—without being needlessly cruel. It’s a great bridge for kids who are starting to move past "fairy tale" endings.

Ages 10+ If you think video games are just Roblox obbys or Fortnite dances, you need to see this. In Spiritfarer, you play as a "ferrymaster to the deceased." Your job isn't to fight monsters; it's to build houses for spirits, cook their favorite meals, and eventually, say goodbye to them at the "Everdoor." It is the most beautiful, "cozy" way to explore the idea that saying goodbye is a duty of love.

Not all "sad" media is good media. Some of it is what I call "grief porn"—content that exists just to make you cry without offering any resolution or meaning.

Check out our guide on how kids use memes to cope with stress

When a character dies on screen and your kid turns to you with "the look," here’s how to handle it without making it a three-hour lecture:

Read more about age-appropriate ways to explain death

While media is a great tool, some kids are more sensitive than others.

We can't keep the world's heaviness away from our kids forever, and honestly, we shouldn't. By watching Coco or reading The Wild Robot together, you're giving them the tools to handle the real stuff when it eventually happens.

You're showing them that while life ends, love and stories don't. And that’s a pretty great lesson to learn during screen time.

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