Back in the day, if someone was being a jerk to you at school, you at least got a break when you went home. Today, the "jerk" lives in your kid’s pocket. Online harassment is an umbrella term that covers everything from "roasting" in a Roblox chat to targeted, repetitive exclusion in an iMessage group thread.

The "online" part makes it stickier for three reasons:

Not every mean comment is cyberbullying, and using the wrong label can actually make things harder to solve.

This is the "he said/she said" stuff. It’s usually between friends or peers who have equal social standing. It’s messy, it’s annoying, and it’s full of "Ohio" jokes that make no sense to us, but it’s a part of learning how to navigate relationships.

This is different. It’s repeated, intentional, and involves a power imbalance.

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If your kid is online, they are at risk for harassment. But some platforms are more "combustible" than others.

Snapchat is the HQ of digital drama. Because messages disappear, kids feel emboldened to say things they’d never say elsewhere. It’s also where "Snap Maps" can show a kid that all their friends are hanging out at the mall without them in real-time. It's a FOMO and harassment factory if not managed well.

Don’t let the blocky graphics fool you. Roblox has a massive social component. Harassment here often looks like "scamming" (tricking kids out of rare items in Adopt Me!) or "bullying" players for having a "noob" (default) skin because they don't have Robux.

Discord is amazing for gaming communities, but it can get dark fast. If your kid is in a "public" server, they’re exposed to anyone. Harassment here is often verbal in voice chats or through "raiding" (where a group of people floods a channel with hate speech).

The voice chat in Fortnite is notorious. "Trash talking" is part of the culture, but it frequently crosses the line into personal attacks, especially toward younger players or girls.

We can’t block every mean person on the internet, so we have to build the "internal firewall" in our kids. These are some of our favorite tools for starting those conversations.

Ages 8+ This is the gold standard for teaching empathy. It shows the perspective of the kid being bullied and the kids doing the bullying (or standing by). It’s a great way to ask, "Which character are you in your group chat right now?"

Ages 14+ Parents, be warned: this movie is painfully accurate. It captures the sheer anxiety of trying to be "cool" on social media while feeling like a disaster in real life. It’s a must-watch for parents of middle schoolers to understand the pressure their kids are under.

Ages 8-12 A graphic novel that perfectly captures the "mean girl" dynamics and the shifting alliances of elementary and middle school. It’s great for kids who are struggling with being excluded from digital groups.

Ages 12+ It’s a bit "after-school special," but it covers the escalation of online harassment in a way that’s very clear for teens to see the consequences of their clicks.

Check out our full list of movies about digital citizenship

At this age, harassment is usually "accidental" or impulsive. They’re playing Minecraft and someone breaks their house, so they call them a "stupid loser" in the chat.

This is the Danger Zone. Social standing is everything, and the group chat is the center of the universe.

By now, they know the rules, but the stakes are higher. Harassment can involve "cancel culture," leaking private photos, or serious exclusion.

If your child comes to you and says they are being harassed:

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We can't protect our kids from every "mean screen" moment, and honestly, we shouldn't. Part of growing up is learning how to handle conflict. But we can make sure they know that their worth isn't defined by a Snapchat streak or a comment section.

The goal isn't a "drama-free" life—that's impossible. The goal is a kid who is resilient enough to hit "block," put the phone down, and go play a round of Catan with people who actually like them.