Using Shrinking to Talk About Therapy, Grief, and Mental Health with Teens
Shrinking is an Apple TV+ comedy-drama that follows a grieving therapist who starts telling his clients exactly what he thinks. It's actually a surprisingly great conversation starter for teens about therapy, mental health, boundaries, and grief—wrapped in a show that's funny enough to keep them watching. Best for ages 14+ due to language, adult themes, and some sexual content.
Quick discussion starters:
- Why does Jimmy break the rules of therapy? Is he helping or hurting?
- How do different characters deal with grief?
- What makes a healthy vs. unhealthy boundary?
- When should someone consider therapy?
Shrinking stars Jason Segel as Jimmy, a therapist who's been sleepwalking through life since his wife died in a car accident. He's barely present for his teenage daughter Alice, he's drinking too much, and he's phoning it in with his therapy clients. Then he snaps and decides to throw out the rulebook—he starts telling clients exactly what he thinks they should do, inserting himself into their lives, and basically doing everything therapists are taught NOT to do.
The show also features Harrison Ford as Paul, Jimmy's mentor and colleague who's dealing with his own Parkinson's diagnosis, and Jessica Williams as Gaby, Jimmy's best friend and fellow therapist who's horrified by his new approach.
It's from the team behind Ted Lasso, so it has that same blend of genuine emotion and humor, but it's definitely more adult. Think: actual F-bombs, characters having sex, and real discussions about depression, suicide, and trauma.
Most shows about therapy either make it seem like a magic cure or treat mental health as a "very special episode" topic. Shrinking does something different—it shows therapy as messy, imperfect, and deeply human.
The characters are flawed in relatable ways. Jimmy is a mess. Paul is emotionally closed off. Alice (Jimmy's daughter) is angry and grieving and making questionable choices. Nobody has it figured out, and that's the point. Teens can see themselves in these struggles without feeling lectured.
It shows multiple approaches to mental health. Some characters are in therapy, some resist it, some need medication, some need community. There's no one-size-fits-all solution, which is actually the most realistic representation of mental health you'll find on TV.
The humor makes hard topics approachable. When a show can make you laugh about a character's anxiety spiral or a grief support group gone wrong, it lowers the defenses. You can talk about serious stuff without it feeling like an after-school special.
Content Considerations (Ages 14+)
Language: This is not Ted Lasso-level clean. There's frequent strong language including F-bombs, which is used naturally in conversation (not gratuitously, but it's there).
Sexual Content: Characters have sex, and while it's not graphic, it's clearly happening. There are discussions about sex, casual relationships, and dating apps. One character is in a casual sexual relationship that's treated as a normal adult thing, not scandalous.
Substance Use: Jimmy drinks heavily in early episodes as a coping mechanism. The show doesn't glorify this—it's clearly shown as a problem—but it's present.
Mental Health Themes: The show deals with depression, suicidal ideation (one client has attempted suicide), grief, trauma from domestic violence, and Parkinson's disease. These are handled thoughtfully but directly.
Parent-Teen Conflict: Jimmy and Alice have a realistically messy relationship. She's angry at him for checking out after her mom died. He's trying to parent while barely functioning. If your family is dealing with similar dynamics, this could be either really helpful or potentially triggering.
The Therapy Ethics Question
Here's the thing that makes Shrinking interesting: Jimmy is doing therapy wrong. Like, objectively, professionally, ethically wrong. He's over-involved, he's directive, he's inserting himself into clients' personal lives. Real therapists watching this show probably need blood pressure medication.
But the show knows this. It's not endorsing his approach—it's exploring what happens when someone breaks the rules. Sometimes it helps. Sometimes it makes things worse. Sometimes it's impossible to tell.
This is actually a great teaching moment: What are boundaries, and why do they exist? Therapists have strict boundaries for good reasons—to protect clients, to maintain objectivity, to avoid dependency. When you watch Jimmy cross those lines, you can talk about why those rules exist in the first place.
After Episode 1-2: The Setup
"Why do you think Jimmy decided to change how he does therapy?"
This opens up conversations about grief, depression, and what happens when someone hits rock bottom. Jimmy's not thinking clearly—he's acting out of his own pain. Teens can usually see this, which leads to discussions about how our mental state affects our decisions.
"What do you think about what Jimmy said to his client in the first episode?"
In the pilot, Jimmy tells a client who's been complaining about his marriage for years to "just get a divorce already." It's shockingly direct. Ask your teen: Was that helpful? Harmful? What would have been a better approach?
Mid-Season: Character Development
"How is Alice dealing with her grief differently than Jimmy?"
Alice and Jimmy are both grieving the same person, but in completely different ways. She's acting out, seeking attention, testing boundaries. He's numbing out and avoiding. Neither is "right," but both make sense. This can open up conversations about how grief looks different for everyone.
"What do you think about Paul's character?"
Paul (Harrison Ford) is dealing with Parkinson's and facing his own mortality while trying to maintain his stoic, controlled persona. He's been emotionally distant his whole life. Watching him slowly open up is one of the most moving parts of the show, and it's a great way to talk about masculinity, vulnerability, and aging.
"Do you think Gaby is a good friend to Jimmy?"
Gaby calls Jimmy out on his BS while also supporting him. She sets boundaries while staying present. She's probably the healthiest person in the show, and her approach to friendship is worth discussing—especially the balance between supporting someone and enabling them.
Later Episodes: Complex Situations
"When do you think someone should go to therapy?"
The show has characters in therapy for everything from major trauma to "I'm just kind of stuck in life." This normalizes therapy as something for everyone, not just people in crisis. You can talk about what therapy is actually for and debunk the stigma.
"What's the difference between helping someone and fixing them?"
Jimmy wants to fix everyone. It's his way of avoiding his own pain, but it's also genuine care taken too far. This is a great conversation about the difference between support and control, especially relevant for teens who might have friends struggling with mental health issues.
"How do you know when a boundary is healthy vs. just shutting people out?"
Paul has walls up for decades. Jimmy has no boundaries at all. The show explores the space between these extremes, which is exactly where most of us need to figure out how to live.
If your family is dealing with grief—or has in the past—Shrinking can be either incredibly helpful or potentially difficult. The show's portrayal of grief is raw and real. It shows:
- Grief doesn't have a timeline. Jimmy's wife died a year ago, and he's still a mess. That's normal.
- Grief can make you do weird things. Like throw out all the rules of your profession or push away the people who love you.
- Everyone grieves differently. And that can cause conflict even between people grieving the same loss.
- You can't fix grief. You can only move through it.
If you're going to watch this with a teen who's experienced loss, maybe preview it first. The show is ultimately hopeful about healing, but it doesn't shy away from how hard the process is.
One of the best outcomes of watching Shrinking together is that it can make therapy feel less weird or scary. If you've been thinking your teen might benefit from therapy, this show can be a bridge to that conversation.
What you can say: "You know how Jimmy's clients all have different reasons for being in therapy? Some are dealing with big trauma, some just feel stuck. Therapy isn't just for when things are really bad—it's for whenever you want someone to talk to who's trained to help."
Or: "Obviously real therapists aren't like Jimmy—they're not going to tell you exactly what to do or get super involved in your life. But they will listen without judgment and help you figure things out. Want to know what it's actually like?"
The show also portrays different types of therapy and approaches, which can lead to discussions about finding the right therapist
and what to expect from the process.
Ages 14-15: Watch together, definitely. The content is mature enough that you'll want to be there for questions and discussions. The sexual content and language might be a stretch for younger 14-year-olds depending on your family's comfort level.
Ages 16+: Can probably watch independently, but watching together gives you built-in conversation opportunities. The themes are complex enough that even mature teens will benefit from processing them with an adult.
Not recommended for under 14: The combination of adult themes, sexual content, and complex mental health discussions is really geared toward older teens and adults.
If Shrinking works well for your family, here are other shows that tackle mental health thoughtfully:
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Ted Lasso (Ages 12+): Lighter tone, but Season 2-3 deal seriously with panic attacks, therapy, and emotional growth. Much cleaner content than Shrinking.
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The Bear (Ages 16+): Intense look at grief, anxiety, and trauma in a high-stress restaurant environment. Excellent but very adult.
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Heartstopper (Ages 13+): Teen-focused, deals with mental health, eating disorders, and coming out. Sweet and affirming.
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This Is Us (Ages 14+): Family drama that explores grief, addiction, and generational trauma. Will make you cry.
Shrinking isn't perfect—some storylines work better than others, and yes, the therapy ethics will make professionals cringe. But as a tool for starting conversations about mental health, grief, boundaries, and when to ask for help? It's genuinely valuable.
The show's greatest strength is that it treats these topics as part of life, not as special episodes or PSAs. Characters go to therapy the same way they go to work or meet friends for drinks—it's just part of taking care of yourself.
If you have a teen who's resistant to talking about feelings, watching Jimmy and Alice navigate their relationship might open a door. If you've been wondering how to bring up therapy as an option, the show normalizes it beautifully. And if your family is dealing with grief or big transitions, seeing these characters stumble through it might make your own struggles feel less isolating.
Just maybe preview the first episode yourself before family viewing. You'll know pretty quickly if the language and content work for your household.
- Start with Episode 1 together and see how it lands. You'll know by the end if this is right for your teen.
- Don't force the conversations. Let them come up naturally, maybe the next day in the car or at dinner.
- Be ready to share your own experiences with therapy, grief, or mental health if it feels right. Vulnerability invites vulnerability.
- If therapy comes up as something your teen might want to explore, here's how to start that conversation
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The goal isn't to turn your teen into a mental health expert or to have one perfect conversation that solves everything. It's just to open the door a crack and let them know these topics aren't scary or shameful—they're just part of being human.


