TL;DR: Voice chat is the modern-day "hanging out at the mall," but with way more potential for accidental exposure to 19-year-olds with questionable vocabularies. If your kid is playing Fortnite, Roblox, or Among Us, they are likely either using or asking for voice chat. The move here isn't necessarily a total ban, but rather moving from "Open Mic" to "Friends Only" and teaching the "Mute" button like it’s a survival skill.
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In-game voice chat (VC) is exactly what it sounds like: the ability to talk through a headset or microphone to other players in real-time. But for parents, it’s helpful to distinguish between the three main "flavors" of chat your kids are encountering:
- Party Chat: This is the safest tier. Your kid is in a "party" with specific friends (usually people they actually know from school). They can only hear each other, regardless of who else is in the game.
- Game Chat: This is the Wild West. Anyone in the same match can hear your kid, and your kid can hear them. This is where the "toxic lobby" legends are born.
- Proximity Chat: This is a newer trend seen in games like Among Us. You can only hear other players when your digital avatars are standing close to each other. It adds a layer of realism (and hilarity), but it also means a stranger can "walk up" to your kid and start talking.
It’s easy to look at a kid screaming "That's so Ohio!" into a headset and think their brain is melting. But for most kids, voice chat is the social glue of the game.
In Minecraft, they’re using it to coordinate massive builds. In Fortnite, it’s about tactical strategy (and, let's be honest, trash-talking their friends). It’s where they learn digital etiquette, how to lead a team, and how to handle that one friend who refuses to stop playing loud music through their mic.
Is Roblox teaching them entrepreneurship through their "Passes" and "DevEx" systems? Maybe. But the voice chat is where they actually negotiate those "trades," for better or worse.
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Fortnite has actually stepped up their game with "Cabin Accounts" for younger players, which disables voice chat by default. However, once those restrictions are off, the public lobbies can be a cesspool of competitive aggression. If your kid is under 12, keep them on "Friends Only" voice chat. There is zero reason for a 5th grader to be talking to a random 22-year-old in a Battle Royale.
Roblox voice chat (often called "Spatial Voice") is restricted to users who have verified they are 13+ with an ID. If your 10-year-old is on voice chat, they either bypassed the age gate or you did it for them. While it's fun for role-playing games, Roblox is notorious for "condo games" (user-generated spaces that bypass filters) where voice chat can get very adult, very fast.
While not a game itself, Discord is the "phone" of this generation. Most kids will play a game on their console but talk to their friends on a Discord channel on their phone or tablet. It’s higher quality and more private, but it’s also unmoderated. If they are in a server with people they don't know, that's where the real grooming and bullying risks live.
Look, I’m going to be real: if you let your kid play Call of Duty with the voice chat on, you are essentially dropping them into a dive bar at 2 AM. The AI moderation is trying, but it’s still the gold standard for toxicity, slurs, and "brain rot" behavior. This is a "Mute All" game for anyone under 17.
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Every kid is different, but here’s a general roadmap based on community norms we see at Screenwise:
- Ages 6-9: No Voice Chat. At this age, they don't have the emotional regulation to handle a stranger saying something mean, let alone the "stranger danger" awareness needed for unmoderated audio. Stick to Minecraft on local servers or creative games like Toca Life World.
- Ages 10-12: Friends Only. This is the "training wheels" phase. They can talk to school friends or cousins. Use the system-level settings on Xbox, PlayStation, or Switch to restrict communication to "Friends Only."
- Ages 13+: The "Open Mic" Discussion. This is when they start wanting to play more competitively. This is also when they’ll encounter "Proximity Chat." The focus here should be on the "Mute and Report" reflex. If someone is being weird, racist, or just annoying? Mute. Instantly.
If you’re ready to let them dive in, do these three things first:
- The "Living Room Rule": No headsets in the bedroom. If you can hear the chatter coming from the TV or the iPad, you can keep a pulse on the vibe. If the "Skibidi" jokes turn into something more aggressive, you’ll know.
- Check the Mic Settings: Most games have a "Push to Talk" vs. "Open Mic" setting. "Open Mic" means the game broadcasts everything happening in your house—your dog barking, you yelling that dinner is ready, or private family conversations. Encourage "Push to Talk" or a headset with a physical "Flip to Mute" boom.
- Verify the "Friends": Ask who they are talking to. If they say "Oh, just a guy I met in a lobby," that’s a red flag. If they say "It's Leo from soccer practice," you're in the clear.
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If you come at this as the "Internet Police," they will just hide it. Instead, try being curious about the culture.
- Ask for a "Tour": "Hey, who are you guys playing with? What’s the funniest thing someone has said on the mic today?"
- The "Vibe Check": "Does anyone ever get super mean in this game? What do you do when that happens?"
- Explain the "Why": Instead of saying "Voice chat is dangerous," try "Hey, some people use the anonymity of the internet to be their worst selves. I want to make sure you know how to shut that down so it doesn't ruin your fun."
If they start using terms like "Sigma" or "Rizz" or "Ohio" or "Skibidi," don't roll your eyes. It’s just the current dialect. It’s silly, it’s mostly harmless, and it’s how they signal they belong to the group. The problem isn't the slang; the problem is the potential for adult content or bullying to hitch a ride on those conversations.
Voice chat is a tool, not a monster. It can turn a solitary gaming session into a collaborative social hangout, which is something many kids actually need. However, the "No-BS" reality is that game developers are notoriously bad at moderating audio in real-time.
Your best defense isn't a high-tech filter; it's a kid who knows that they don't owe a stranger their time or their ears. Set the privacy settings to "Friends Only," keep the gaming in common areas, and keep the conversation open.
- Audit the Settings: Grab your kid’s console or device tonight and check the "Communication" or "Privacy" tab.
- The Headset Check: Does their headset have a mute button? If not, consider an upgrade.
- Talk Slang: If you're feeling brave, ask them if your dinner was "Level 10 Gyatt" or "Straight out of Ohio." You'll get a massive eye-roll, but you'll also prove you're paying attention.
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