How to Make Friends with the Dark

How to Make Friends with the Dark

book

2020, Teen & Young Adult, Literature & Fiction

WISE
86%

WISE Score

4.6

Amazon

A gut-punch of a story about a girl losing her mom and finding out that the foster system is exactly as messy as you've heard.

Amazon4.6
Common Sense Media

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Screenwise Verdict

This isn't a beach read or a 'fun' weekend book. It’s a sit-in-your-room-and-cry-it-out experience. Glasgow doesn't pull punches, and that's why teens love her—she respects their ability to handle the truth about how hard life can get.

If your teen is into high-emotion contemporary fiction like 'All the Bright Places' or 'Girl in Pieces,' this is a top-tier recommendation. It’s gritty, it’s sad, and it’s very much grounded in the 2020s reality of mental health awareness.

Age Fit

Best for 14 and up. It’s a heavy lift emotionally, and while younger teens could read the words, the weight of the themes—suicide, foster care, and profound isolation—requires a level of maturity to process.

WISE Breakdown
Wholesome
72

It’s emotionally raw and honest about the messiness of grief. While it's not 'sunny,' it models the hard work of resilience and finding connection in the middle of a total life collapse.

Imaginative
68

As contemporary fiction, it doesn't build new worlds, but it uses the 'darkness' as a visceral, creative metaphor for depression and loss that resonates deeply with teen readers.

Safe
75

It deals with heavy triggers: sudden parental death, the foster care system, and mentions of suicide. Safe for the intended teen audience, but would be a massive emotional shock for a younger child.

Enriching
94

This is a masterclass in empathy. It gives a voice to kids in the foster system and provides a roadmap for navigating overwhelming loss without offering easy, fake answers.

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Why It Might Be Great

  • It offers a brutally honest look at sudden grief that doesn't talk down to teenagers.
  • The depiction of the foster care system is realistic, showing both the bureaucratic nightmare and the rare moments of genuine connection.
  • Kathleen Glasgow is a pro at writing 'the girl who is falling apart' in a way that feels validating rather than exploitative.
  • It explores 'found family' and the idea that your life isn't over just because your first chapter ended in tragedy.
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What to Watch For

  • The book starts with a parent dying suddenly—if your kid is currently dealing with health anxiety or loss, this might be too much too soon.
  • There are references to suicide and self-harm ideation that come with the territory of deep depression.

Conversation Starters

  • "Tiger feels like the 'dark' is a physical thing following her. Have you ever felt an emotion so big it felt like a person or a place?"
  • "The foster homes Tiger stays in are all so different. What did you think about how the system treats kids who have no one left?"
  • "Why do you think Tiger's mom kept so many secrets about their family?"
  • "How do you actually help a friend when something this terrible happens? Is there anything people said to Tiger that actually worked?"

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