TL;DR: Crusader Kings III is a "grand strategy" game that is 50% history textbook and 50% medieval soap opera. It’s brilliant for teaching systems thinking and geography, but it deals with heavy themes like political assassination, complex inheritance, and messy family dynamics. If your kid likes Civilization VI but wishes it had more "drama," this is their next obsession.
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If you haven’t seen it over your kid's shoulder yet, Crusader Kings III (or CK3) looks like a giant, interactive map of the Middle Ages. But unlike most strategy games where you play as a "country" (like playing as America or England), in CK3, you play as a person.
You are a Count, Duke, King, or Emperor. When your character dies, you take over as their heir. If you don't have an heir, or your family line gets wiped out, it’s game over. This shift from "country" to "family" changes everything. It means the game isn't just about winning wars; it's about making sure your idiot son doesn't inherit the throne and lose everything your grandfather built.
It’s essentially a generator for "the craziest thing happened in my game today" stories. One minute you’re successfully defending your borders from the Vikings, and the next, you realize your brother is plotting to poison your wine because he wants your title.
There is a specific type of kid who gravitates toward CK3. Usually, it’s the one who already spends too much time on Wikipedia reading about the Holy Roman Empire or watches OverSimplified on repeat.
- The Drama: It’s high-stakes storytelling. The game creates "emergent narratives." Your kid isn't just following a script; they are creating a family legacy.
- The Complexity: For kids who feel like Minecraft is getting a bit "young," CK3 offers a massive jump in complexity. Managing taxes, vassals, religious faith, and military levies feels like high-level problem solving.
- The Memes: There is a massive internet culture around this game. If your kid mentions "Gavelkind" or "incest" in a gaming context, they are likely talking about the bizarre (and often frustrating) inheritance laws and marriage strategies the game allows.
We talk a lot about "brain rot" content, but Crusader Kings III is the opposite. It’s "brain fuel," provided your child is old enough to handle the darker themes.
It teaches consequence. In Fortnite, if you die, you just start a new match. In CK3, if you make a bad political move, you might spend the next three hours of gameplay trying to recover your family’s lost prestige. It’s a masterclass in long-term planning.
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If your kid is already deep into the CK3 rabbit hole, or you’re looking for ways to bridge their digital interest with other media, here are some top-tier recommendations:
The gold standard. It’s more user-friendly than its predecessor, Crusader Kings II, and has better visuals. It’s rated M, primarily for the text-based descriptions of violence, sexuality, and "courtly intrigue."
Made by the same studio, this picks up where the Middle Ages end. It focuses more on colonialism, trade, and the rise of nations. It’s less about "family drama" and more about "building an empire."
If your teen is playing CK3, they will love this podcast. It’s witty, deeply researched, and covers many of the time periods featured in the game. It turns "boring" history into a gripping narrative.
A fantastic middle ground between Civilization VI and CK3. It focuses on the ancient world (think Greece, Rome, Carthage) and incorporates the "family and heirs" mechanic that makes CK3 so addictive.
Think of this as Netflix, but only for history buffs. It’s full of documentaries that provide the actual context for the castles and kings your kid is interacting with in-game.
Recommended Age: 14+
While there is no "active" gore (you aren't swinging a sword in first-person), the themes are definitely for older teens.
- Violence: It’s all represented through icons, text, and sound effects. You might "execute" a prisoner or "blind" a rival, but you see a portrait, not a movie.
- Sexual Content: The game involves marriage and producing heirs. This leads to mechanics involving "seduction" and "affairs." You can find out a child isn't actually yours, or deal with the fallout of a royal scandal. It's handled through text boxes and "event" pop-ups, but it’s frequent.
- Religion: The game treats religion as a powerful political tool. You can create your own "heresy" or reform a faith. For families with strong religious convictions, this is worth a conversation, as the game views faith through a very pragmatic, historical-political lens.
This is not a game you "pick up and play" in 20 minutes. It takes hours just to understand the interface. If you see your kid staring at a screen of menus and spreadsheets and looking stressed, they are probably just trying to figure out why their third cousin is currently the heir to the Kingdom of Leon instead of their own daughter.
The "Incest" Elephant in the Room
If you spend five minutes on any Crusader Kings forum (like Reddit), you will see jokes about "eugenics" and "incest." Because the game allows you to manage bloodlines to get the best "traits" (like being "Genius" or "Herculean"), the community leans into the absurdity of medieval noble families marrying their cousins. It’s dark humor, but it’s a huge part of the game's internet culture.
Instead of asking "Are you winning?" (which doesn't really apply here), try these questions:
- "Who are you playing as right now? What’s your family’s goal?"
- "What’s the messiest thing that’s happened in your court today?"
- "How does the inheritance work in your kingdom? Is it causing drama?" (Ask about Gavelkind vs Primogeniture—they will be shocked you know the terms).
- "Have you learned anything about geography that surprised you?" (CK3 features a massive map including Europe, Africa, and Asia).
Crusader Kings III is a high-IQ, high-engagement game. It’s "prestige TV" in game form. While the M rating is there for a reason, the "harm" is minimal compared to the intellectual stimulation it provides. It’s a game about history, politics, and the messy reality of human ambition.
If your kid is playing this, they aren't just "gaming"—they are basically running a medieval simulation that would make a history professor sweat.
- Check the specs: CK3 is a "heavy" game. It needs a decent PC or a newer console (PS5 or Xbox Series X).
- Talk about the "Dark Ages": Use the game as a springboard to talk about what life was actually like then.
- Set a timer: This is a "just one more turn" (or "just one more year") kind of game. It is very easy for a teen to lose six hours in a single sitting.
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