The Gravity of Us

The Gravity of Us

book

2021, Teen & Young Adult, Literature & Fiction

WISE
80%

WISE Score

4.4

Amazon

Two boys fall for each other while their astronaut parents compete for Mars—a sweet, smart YA romance grounded in family chaos and media madness.

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Screenwise Verdict

This is solid contemporary YA that does what it promises: a sweet gay romance wrapped in an interesting premise. The Mars mission and media circus angle keeps it from being just another coming-out story, and Phil Stamper clearly knows how to write characters who feel like actual teens—messy families, social media ambitions, falling hard and fast.

The mental health representation (Cal's mom's anxiety) gets specific praise from reviewers, and the parent-child relationships are apparently the strongest element. That's refreshing in a genre that often sidelines adults entirely.

It's not going to revolutionize anyone's worldview, but it's warm, thoughtful, and genuinely romantic without being cringey. The journalism/media manipulation thread adds some intellectual heft. If your teen liked 'Simon vs.' or Adam Silvera's work, this fits right in that pocket—affirming, emotionally intelligent, and readable.

One caveat: it came out in 2020 (not 2021 as listed), so the 'FlashFame app' and social media details might already feel slightly dated to extremely-online teens. But the core story holds up.

Age Fit

Best for ages 13-18, the sweet spot for contemporary YA romance. Mature middle schoolers who read up could handle it, and it's got enough substance (journalism ethics, family complexity) that older teens won't feel talked down to. Adults who enjoy YA will find it charming too.

WISE Breakdown
Wholesome
82

A warm contemporary YA romance that centers healthy LGBTQ+ relationships and navigates complex family dynamics—including a parent with anxiety—with care and authenticity. The relationship between Cal and Leon develops naturally without being overly sexualized. The book addresses parental conflict and media pressure realistically but without veering into toxicity. Models genuine emotional communication and finding support during stressful life transitions.

Imaginative
74

Sets a teen romance against the backdrop of NASA's first human mission to Mars, blending real-world space exploration with social media culture (FlashFame app) and reality-TV-style media circus dynamics. The premise is creative—exploring how national attention warps family life—but this is fundamentally a contemporary relationship story rather than speculative fiction. Invites thinking about journalism, truth-telling, and how media shapes narratives, but doesn't push boundaries of the genre.

Safe
88

Very safe for its target YA audience. Web search results mention content warnings only for 'violence' (likely minimal given the contemporary setting) and references to 'death and mental illness' (the parent's anxiety disorder). No indication of graphic content, sexual scenes, or traumatic material. The conflicts are emotional and interpersonal rather than physically threatening. LGBTQ+ romance is treated as normal and affirming. Amazon rating of 4.4/5 suggests broad reader satisfaction without major content complaints.

Enriching
79

Tackles meaningful themes: media manipulation and journalistic ethics, family dynamics under extreme pressure, mental health representation (parent with anxiety), navigating identity during upheaval, and finding authentic connection in artificial circumstances. Cal's journalism aspirations and the 'ulterior motives' plot thread add substance beyond romance. Reviews highlight the strong parent-child relationship exploration. Offers insight into how public scrutiny affects private lives and the responsibility that comes with having a platform. Goodreads Choice Award finalist and multiple 'Best of Year' recognitions suggest genuine resonance with readers.

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Why It Might Be Great

  • Genuinely warm LGBTQ+ romance that feels authentic and earned, not performative
  • Thoughtful exploration of family dynamics under pressure—especially the mother's anxiety representation
  • Addresses media literacy and journalistic integrity in the age of social media fame
  • Space mission backdrop adds stakes and novelty to a contemporary relationship story
  • Multiple awards and bestseller status suggest it connects with teen readers who actually, you know, read
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What to Watch For

  • Parents are portrayed as flawed and bickering—realistic but might be uncomfortable if your family is navigating similar tension
  • Mental health themes (anxiety) are present and handled sensitively, but worth noting
  • Some discussion of media manipulation and institutional dishonesty that could prompt questions
  • It's a romance first—if your teen rolls their eyes at feelings, this might not land

Conversation Starters

  • "Cal has almost half a million followers before everything changes—what do you think about being that visible online at 17?"
  • "The book shows how the media creates a 'perfect American family' narrative. Have you noticed that happening with celebrities or influencers?"
  • "Cal's mom has anxiety that affects the family. How do you think they could have supported each other better?"
  • "If you suddenly had to move across the country for a parent's job, what would be hardest to leave behind?"
  • "The NASA program has 'ulterior motives'—when should whistleblowing happen, even if it hurts people you care about?"

Deep Dive

The "NASA-Reality-TV" Pivot

If you’re expecting a hard-sci-fi technical manual about rocket boosters, look elsewhere. This is a story about the optics of space travel. Phil Stamper nails the specific, suffocating feeling of being a "public" family. Cal isn’t just a teenager; he’s an aspiring journalist with a massive social media following on a fictional app that feels like a TikTok-Instagram hybrid.

The friction comes from the clash between Cal’s desire for raw, messy truth and NASA’s desire for a polished, 1950s-style "perfect family" image. It’s a great entry point for talking about media literacy. If your teen is obsessed with how influencers curate their lives, they’ll recognize the "media circus" immediately. It’s less about the stars and more about the cameras pointed at the people looking at the stars.

Why the Romance Works

The relationship between Cal and Leon is the definition of grounded. In a lot of YA, the romance feels like it's happening in a vacuum, but here it’s an "oasis" from the chaos of their parents’ competition. They aren't just falling in love because the plot requires it; they're the only two people in Houston who understand what it’s like to have your life hijacked by a government PR machine.

If your kid usually gravitates toward books about misfit teens, this will hit that same "us against the world" nerve. It’s a sweet, affirming queer romance that doesn't rely on tragedy or "coming out" trauma to find its momentum. Instead, the drama comes from the secrets they uncover about the Mars mission itself.

The Mental Health Reality Check

One of the best things about this book is how it handles the adults. Usually, in teen fiction, parents are either dead, evil, or invisible. Here, they are complicated. Cal’s mom has a very realistic, life-affecting case of anxiety. It isn’t used as a plot device to make her a villain; it’s just part of the family’s gravity.

Leon’s mother is also under immense pressure, and Leon himself deals with depression. It makes the "perfect family" facade NASA is trying to sell feel even more hollow. This isn't a dark, gritty thriller like The Lake—it’s much warmer than that—but it doesn't shy away from the fact that being the child of a hero is actually pretty exhausting.

If Your Teen Liked...

This is the perfect follow-up for anyone who finished Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda and wanted something with slightly higher stakes. It’s for the reader who likes the "contemporary with a twist" vibe. It’s not as bleak as a dystopian novel, but it’s more intellectual than a standard high school rom-com.

If they’re into the idea of "finding your people" while the rest of the world is watching, this is a safe bet. It’s smart, it’s romantic, and it actually has something to say about how we consume other people's lives through a screen.

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