Look, we all want our kids to be gritty. To bounce back when they fail a math test, lose the big game, or get cut from the friend group text thread. But saying "just be resilient!" is about as effective as telling them to "just be taller."
What actually works? Stories. Movies, specifically, where characters face real setbacks and have to figure out how to keep going. Not the sanitized Disney version where everything works out in 90 minutes with a musical number—though those have their place—but films that show the messy middle of perseverance. The part where you're not sure if the protagonist will make it. The part where they want to give up. The part that looks a lot like real life.
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See allMovies about resilience aren't just feel-good entertainment (though they can be that too). They're conversation starters. They give you a shared language with your kids about what it means to keep going when things get hard. And honestly? In 2026, when our kids are growing up with algorithms designed to give them exactly what they want instantly, learning to sit with discomfort and push through challenges might be one of the most important skills we can help them develop.
Here's the thing about resilience: it's not something you can teach in a lecture. You can't just tell your 10-year-old "failure is part of growth" and expect them to internalize it. They need to see it. They need examples of people—real or fictional—who faced obstacles and found a way through.
The research backs this up. Kids who see characters model resilience develop better coping strategies for their own challenges. They learn that setbacks aren't endings, they're plot points. That struggling doesn't mean you're broken, it means you're human.
Plus, watching these movies together gives you a low-stakes way to talk about hard things. It's easier to discuss fear, failure, and perseverance when you're talking about someone else's story. "What would you have done in that situation?" hits different than "Why did you give up on piano?"
Ages 5-8: Building the Foundation
Soul - Yes, it's about existential purpose, but it's also about a character who loses everything he's worked for and has to figure out what really matters. The jazz metaphors about finding your spark are perfect for talking about passion and persistence.
Encanto - Mirabel doesn't get a magical gift, and the whole movie is about her finding value in herself anyway. It's about family pressure, feeling "not enough," and discovering your own kind of strength. Plus, the music slaps.
Finding Nemo - Nemo has a disability (his "lucky fin"), gets captured, and has to figure out how to survive and escape. Meanwhile, his anxious dad has to push past his fears to find him. It's resilience on multiple levels, and it doesn't pull punches about how scary the ocean—and life—can be.
Ages 9-12: Getting Real
Hidden Figures - Three Black women mathematicians facing racism and sexism while literally helping America win the space race. It's about brilliance meeting barriers and refusing to be stopped. The scene where Katherine runs half a mile in heels to use the "colored" bathroom? That's resilience.
Akeelah and the Bee - An 11-year-old from South LA competing in the National Spelling Bee. It's about academic pressure, imposter syndrome, community support, and the grinding work of preparation. Also features one of the best movie mentors ever.
The Mighty Ducks - Yeah, it's a sports movie, but it's about a ragtag team of kids who are used to losing learning to believe in themselves. Sometimes resilience looks like showing up to practice even when you're the worst player on the ice.
Moana - She fails. Multiple times. The ocean literally takes back her magical macguffin because she's not ready. But she figures it out, learns from her mistakes, and saves her people. The "I am Moana" scene is basically a masterclass in self-affirmation through adversity.
Ages 13+: Complex Challenges
Hidden Figures works here too, but teens will catch the deeper layers of systemic barriers and strategic resilience.
The Pursuit of Happyness - Fair warning: this one is hard. A father and son experiencing homelessness while the dad tries to make it as a stockbroker. It's about poverty, single parenthood, and refusing to give up even when the system is stacked against you. Watch it together and have tissues ready.
Rocky - Not the sequels, the original. It's not about winning—Rocky loses the fight! It's about a guy who's been written off proving to himself he can go the distance. "I just wanna prove I'm not another bum from the neighborhood."
October Sky - Based on a true story of a coal miner's son in West Virginia who decides he's going to build rockets and get out. His dad thinks he's wasting his time. The town thinks he's crazy. He does it anyway. Beautiful film about dreaming bigger than your circumstances.
The Martian - "I'm going to have to science the shit out of this." An astronaut gets left behind on Mars and has to problem-solve his way to survival. It's resilience as practical optimism and creative thinking. Plus, it's genuinely funny.
Not all "inspirational" movies are created equal. Some are genuinely about resilience—characters failing, learning, adapting, and growing. Others are just "believe in yourself and magic happens" fairy tales. Both have value, but they teach different lessons.
The best resilience movies show the process, not just the outcome. Look for films where you actually see the character struggling, making mistakes, and figuring things out. The training montage matters more than the victory lap.
Your kids might not want to talk about it immediately. That's fine. Plant the seed. You might be surprised when they reference the movie three weeks later when they're dealing with their own challenge.
Watch for what resonates. If your kid keeps rewatching Soul or quoting Hidden Figures, there's probably something in that story that's speaking to them. Ask about it.
Context matters. A movie about academic pressure might hit different if your kid is struggling in school. A story about sports resilience might be perfect—or might be too much—if they just got cut from the team. Use your judgment about timing.
The magic happens in the conversation after the credits roll. Try these openers:
- "What was the hardest moment for [character]? What made them keep going?"
- "Have you ever felt like that? When?"
- "What would you have done differently?"
- "Who helped them? Who do you have in your corner when things get hard?"
- "They failed at [X] but kept trying. What's something you've had to try multiple times?"
And here's the secret: share your own resilience stories. Not in a "when I was your age I walked uphill both ways" way, but real talk about times you struggled and how you got through it. Times you didn't get through it and had to pivot. Kids need to know that adults aren't resilience machines—we're all figuring it out.
Movies about resilience won't magically make your kids grittier. But they're tools. They give you shared stories to reference. They normalize struggle. They show that setbacks are part of every worthwhile journey, not signs that you should quit.
In a world where our kids can skip songs after three seconds and get dopamine hits from infinite scroll, sitting with a two-hour story about someone pushing through hard things is actually pretty countercultural. It's practice for the long game of life.
So make some popcorn, turn off your phones, and watch someone on screen refuse to give up. Then talk about it. That's where the real learning happens.
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